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C-4 Wednesday, August 29, 2018 The Press-Dispatch HOME LIFE TO ADVERTISE: Call: 812-354-8500 Email: ads@pressdispatch.net Visit: 820 E. Poplar Street, Petersburg Deadline: 5 p.m. on Monday Youth First Today by Joan Carie, Youth First, Inc. Navigating the journey to adolescence REAL ESTATE DEADLINE 5 p.m. Every Monday Katiedid vs... by Katiedid Langrock Ice cream rebellion HOME FOR SALE 1792 W CR 50 S, Petersburg – 2 country acres, 3 bedroom, 1½ bath brick ranch with basement, 1½-car attached garage on good paved road, extra clean in move-in condition. All window treatments and appli- ances included: refrigerator, range, dishwasher, washer and dryer. New 200 amp electric service, high efficiency gas heat and central air, Pike-Gibson water. Surrounded by farm property. Private, but not totally secluded. $139,900. Call to see! 812-664-2451 PIÑA COLADA ICEBOX CAKE By Monica Sinclair Labor Day is coming up. Do you have a cookout to attend? Our family does a family reunion every Labor Day weekend and it is potluck style. This year, I found a great recipe to try that will help keep the summer heat away. With only nine simple ingredients, this dessert will take no time to make and will be hard to stay out of on the way to the reunion. Have a safe and happy Labor Day! Enjoy! INGREDIENTS • 1 package (8 ounces) cream cheese, softened • 1/2 cup confectioners' sugar • 1/2 teaspoon rum extract • 1 can (13.66 ounces) coconut milk, divided • 1 package (3.4 ounces) instant vanilla pudding mix • 1 container (8 ounces) frozen whipped topping, thawed • 15 whole graham crackers • 1 can (20 ounces) crushed pineapple, drained • 1 cup sweetened shredded coconut, toasted DIRECTIONS 1. In a large bowl, beat cream cheese, confectioners' sugar and extract until smooth. 2. Gradually beat in 1 cup coconut milk. Add pudding mix; beat on low speed until smooth. 3. Fold in whipped topping. 4. Pour remaining coconut milk into a shallow dish. Quickly dip half of the graham crackers into milk; allow excess to drip off. Arrange in a single lay- er in the bottom of a 13x9 baking dish, breaking to fit as needed. 5. Layer with half each of the cream cheese mixture, pineapple and coconut. Repeat layers. 6. Refrigerate, covered, at least 4 hours before serv- ing. Source: tasteof home.com MEALS IN Monica's MINUTES Share your favorite recipe! www.facebook.com/mealsinminutes Monica's Meals in Minutes PO Box 68, Petersburg, IN 47567 mealsinminutes@pressdispatch.net FACEBOOK MAIL EMAIL For many families it seems that life never slows down. The busyness of the daily schedule sometimes prevents us from giving attention to our children's most important phases. For many of today's parents, sup- porting the transition from childhood to adolescence can add challenges to an already chaotic family life. There are popular beliefs about this journey, historically and culturally. It is not always true, however, that moth- ers and adolescent daughters can't get along or that fathers and adolescent sons engage in power struggles with- out communicating. Parents will notice that peers be- come very important to the child dur- ing this transition period. The child may be frustrated by the decreased amount of time they are engaged in so- cial time with their peers. Some stu- dent schedules are so tight that there is literally no daily time to engage in social interactions. An increase in the academic, athlet- ic, and other expectations of students during this time is also worth mention- ing. While there are systemic barriers to overcome, it is possible for adoles- cents and their parents to make this transition smoothly. Separating from parents to find inde- pendence and a personal identity are natural during this phase of growth and development. Parents and chil- dren may need to take some time to grieve the loss of childhood as adoles- cence approaches. Simply acknowledg- ing and honoring this can be helpful. As children move toward independ- ence, parents may find it helpful to be fully present in acknowledging their feelings about their children growing up. This can reduce the temptation to engage in power struggles over con- cerns such as curfew, dating, cloth- ing, etc. Here are some other key ideas that may be helpful during this transition phase: • Be fully present when interacting with your adolescent. Adults frequent- ly complain about kids overusing elec- tronics but are unwilling to check their own electronic use. If parents stop mul- ti-tasking, make eye contact and listen, it will go a long way toward better com- munication. • It is important to find some com- mon ground and connect with teens before going into the list of things they need to get done. Set aside some scheduled time with your adolescent. This is time away from peers and sib- lings and the other parent - individual time to really connect. This connection can go a long way when setting bound- aries around independence and reduc- ing the potential for power struggles. • Parents need to set clear bounda- ries about how they expect to be treat- ed by their children, but enforce these boundaries in a kind and compassion- ate way. Adolescents learn how to treat others from these important interac- tions with their parents. I liken the process of transition- ing from childhood through the teen years to rocks with rough edges being thrown into rushing water. The force of the water smooths out the edges and eventually the rock transforms into a smooth stone. When kids react in a mean way, and it will happen, it is important for par- ents to let their teen know the behav- ior is unacceptable, remodeling how they expect to be treated. Eventually this will transfer to the teen's ability to set clear expectations as well. As the adults, parents are still in charge. When teens say mean things to their parents, they are actually mir- roring their own internal feelings. It's not personal, so it's important that par- ents not take these things personally. Don't react negatively. Get a little dis- tance before addressing this behavior with your teen. Keeping these ideas in your par- enting toolkit will go a long way to- ward building a strong foundation for your relationship with your adolescent through the teen years. This column is written by Joan Carie, LCSW, LCAC, school social worker for Youth First, Inc., a local nonprofit ded- icated to strengthening youth and fam- ilies. This fall, Youth First will provide 54 Master's level social workers to 75 schools in 10 Indiana counties. Over 60,000 youth and families per year have access to Youth First's school social work and after-school programs that prevent substance abuse, promote healthy behav- iors, and maximize student success. "I'm not touching you," my 6 -year- old said, holding a pillow a mere millimeter from my face after I demanded he stop hitting me with it. "I know what you're do- ing," I said, beyond agitat- ed. "I know what I'm doing, too," he said gleefully. "I'm not hitting you with the pil- low, just like you asked." He was so darn proud of his defi- ance that I couldn't help but smile. I've always been a fan of small acts of rebellion and victimless crimes. My son lives in a world of rules, demands, structure, timelines and punishment. Was he being a punk with the pillow? Ab- solutely. Was he relishing in his act of defiance, which fell a mere wisp within the lines? Absolutely squared. And it's hard to fault him for it. In my adult life — also full of rules, demands, structure, timelines and consequences — there is noth- ing sweeter than the feeling of get- ting away with something just a tad naughty. It's why I still love to blow the paper off my straws — a pastime that may end soon, now that we think of straws as the devil in white-paper- tubed pajamas. I've always taken immense pleas- ure in participating in and hearing stories of these micro-rebellions. The more innocuous they are the more my heart swells. They are, in my humble Tractors, Trucks & Equipment with Lawn and Garden and Auto Auctions September 1 • 8:30 am edt Military Bucket Truck, '97 GMC Bucket truck; 12 cutting head Wood Chipper; JD1070 Yanmar dsl, Ford 600 with loader, Cub Cadet EX450 Yanmar loader tractor w/ back hoe attachment; New Holland 30/45 boom Tractor; F600 Twin Hoist Grain Truck, 2003 Victory Motorcycle; Yamaha Banshee Flat Trak Race Quad 4 wheeler; Cub Cadet 4x4 dsl Side by Side w/140 hrs; Kawasaki Bayou 250 Four Wheeler; Golf Carts; Dixie Chopper; Hustler Raptor; Toro ZMaster; Scag Tiger Cub; Scag Cheetah & much more! Expecting over 150 Vehicles. 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