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C-4 Wednesday, Februar y 20, 2019 The Press-Dispatch HOME LIFE TO ADVERTISE: Call: 812-354-8500 Email: ads@pressdispatch.net Visit: 820 E. Poplar Street, Petersburg Deadline: 5 p.m. on Monday Youth First Today by Brooke Skipper, Youth First, Inc. Raising a feminist son OBITUARY DEADLINE 5 p.m. Every Monday Katiedid vs... by Katiedid Langrock Box of cheese PIKE COUNTY Live the Dream Email: martenelsondaves@live.com Marte' Nelson-Daves Principal Broker/Owner Call: 812-789-9510 Text: 812-766-0690 See our listings on Facebook: "American Dream Pike County" CR 225 E, Winslow (Off Ayrshire Road) 5 Acres in Ayrshire area with water, electric and natural gas. Ready to build on now! $49,900 668 W CR 125 S, Petersburg (Sugar Ridge Road) 2-½ Acres in Littles area with water and electric on site. Ready to build on now! $24,900 $XFWLRQHHU5XVVHOO'+DUPH\HU,1$XFW/LF$8 +5(6,1$XFW/LF$& 6QFF.KVVGP &CXG$QPPGNN /KEJCGN$QPPGNN #PF[*QYGNN +/670/ 2ZQHU+HQGULFNVRQ _ KDOGHUPDQFRP $XFWLRQ 1#%$3 o DFUHV 1 2$"$#3 )HEUXDU\ WK SP&67 :DUULFN&RXQW\+&HQWHU$OFRD%XLOGLQJ 6NHOWRQ2ZHQ %RRQ7RZQVKLSV:DUULFN&RXQW\ /DUJH&RQWLJXRXV&URS$FUHV &RPPHUFLDO%XLOGLQJLQ 3ULPH/RFDWLRQ,PSURYHG 3DVWXUHV )DUP+HDGTXDUWHUV SPRING FARM AUCTION Saturday, March 16 10aM (cdt) • 114 E. Sr 68, LynnviLLE Tractors, Trailers, Farm Machinery, Tools and more. CALL NOW TO GET YOUR ITEMS ON THIS SALE! Lic. #AU10800006 812-598-3936 The word feminism is often criti- cized by society. There are many peo- ple who may not even read an article with the word feminism in the title. In all actuality, feminism is defined as equality of the sexes. At its core, feminism just means believing we are all equal and should, therefore, have equal opportunities. A powerful quote by Gloria Steinem states, "Though we have the courage to raise our daughters more like our sons, we've rarely had the courage to raise our sons like our daughters." We want our daughters to be as- sertive, bold, to understand they can aspire to whatever path in life they choose. We've changed our clothing lines for girls to include items with the word "strong" instead of the standard "pretty." We encourage our girls to ex- plore science, sports, and business, which are typically viewed by socie- ty as "male." But what about the boys? How often do we let our boys know pink is not a representation of a sex, that they can take dance lessons, that crying is not just okay but natural, that they can be beautiful, kind, and sensitive? Instill- ing acceptance and equality in our sons can help avoid the toxic mascu- linity that can debilitate them in the future. Here are some ways we can raise our children to see each other as equal: • Teach them to feel their feel- ings. When our children cry, a knee- jerk reaction is to say, "Don't cry." This is detrimental on many levels, as we are teaching our children to suppress their emotions. When our sons cry, this detriment reaches another level if we say, "Be a big boy and stop cry- ing." Instead, let your son know that it is okay to feel upset and help them cope with their emotions. • Remember that household chores are for the entire household. Make sure your children know every- one is expected to help with all chores. Chores are about what is age appropri- ate, not male/female appropriate. • Expose children to strong fe- male characters and teach them that women can be powerful. En- courage your children to be any char- acter they want to be during imagina- tive play, regardless if the sex aligns with theirs. If your son wants to pre- tend to be Wonder Woman, let him. • Don't differentiate between toys or hobbies. Encourage your children to participate in activities and play with toys that appeal to them. Don't stereotype an activity or toy as "for girls" or "for boys" only. • Encourage co-ed friendships. It's great for kids to have friends who are the same gender, but it's equally important for them to have friends of the opposite sex. Boys can learn that girls aren't the weaker sex and can have great ideas of their own. • Teach children that feminism is not male bashing, it is about equal- ity. Being a feminist means you believe everyone should coexist equally. No one is less than or more than another. Defined in that way, why wouldn't you want to be a feminist? This column is written by Brooke Skipper, LCSW, school social worker for Youth First, Inc., a local nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides 55 Mas- ter's level social workers to 76 schools in 10 Indiana counties. Over 38,000 youth and families per year have access to Youth First's school social work and after-school programs that prevent sub- stance abuse, promote healthy behaviors, and maximize student success. My high school friends were all in a group text on Valentine's Day. Those of us with kids began it around 8 p.m. be- cause, well, we weren't doing anything. The married ones joined in around 9:30 p.m., having come home from their din- ner. The dating friends joined the text conversation closer to 11 p.m., having dined and, well, what have you. As our group was swapping stories about Val- entine's Day or the lack thereof, one friend still hadn't chimed in. Amira had her first baby a few short months ago, so we figured she was probably sleeping. It's hard to even pretend to have romance when you're exhausted and living life in a nursing bra. We figured her gift was a reason- able bedtime. We were wrong. Entering the con- versation just short of midnight was Amira, with a picture of a heart-shaped box. The message read, "Sorry, I was eating cheese." A second text followed with a picture of the open box and an ar- ray of cheeses, not chocolates, inside. Excuse me, but a heart-shaped box full of cheese may just be the most ro- mantic thing I've ever imagined. How did no one think of this earlier? It's as if I died and went to Havarti. My neighbor protested when I told her about this magical box of good- ness the next day. "Cheese? Chocolate is much better than cheese. You can't dip strawberries in cheese." Holy baby Swiss, ya sure can! Not on- ly can you dip strawberries in cheese but, better yet, you can dip tortilla chips. "I don't know," my neighbor said. "You just can't use cheese romantical- ly in a sentence the same way you can use chocolate." I told her, "I'm gonna need an exam- ple." "OK." She thought for a minute. "How about 'Oh, baby, I love the way you feed me chocolates'? " I replied, "'Oh, baby, I love the way you feed me cheese' sounds just as romantic." My neighbor laughed. "OK, I got one. 'Oh, baby, you've got a little choc- olate on the corner of your mouth. Let me kiss it off.'" I repeated, "Oh, baby, you've got a dollop of melted cheese on the corner of your mouth. Let me kiss it off." She laughed. "That's so gross." She insisted that no one would ever say that. I beg to differ; in a world of chocolate vs. cheese, there is one clear winner. My neighbor went in for the kill with, "Oh, baby, I love the way you drizzle the chocolate across my plate." I met the challenge with, "Oh, baby, I love the way you cut the cheese." I may have lost this round. The ingenious heart-shaped box of cheese did make me wonder, however, how women, as some monolithic group, have become recipients of chocolate. Surely, there are plenty of women who love chocolate, just as there are men who do. But I have never been over the moon about it. My favorite candy bar is a PayDay. My favorite cake is spice. Favorite ice cream? Peppermint. And though my favorite all-time dessert is admittedly s'mores, I make mine with just the marshmallow and graham cracker. My husband knows this. My hus- band does not buy me chocolate for Valentine's Day or any other day. But his wife's not belonging to this weird, seemingly all-encompassing taste group does put him at a disadvantage. Valentine's Day is nice simply in the complete lack of thought that it requires to knock it out of the park. Unlike birthdays and the winter hol- idays — when you have to actually consider the unique person you're buy- ing for — Valentine's Day has simple, easy-to-follow rules: chocolates, flow- ers, stuffed animals, cards. It's not re- ally romantic as much as it is an insur- ance plan to stay out of the doghouse. And for as much as we all hate paying for insurance, it's usually smart to have it just in case. That thoughtless holiday forces you to be quite thoughtful, however, when your significant other doesn't like choc- olate, refuses words that are written by someone else and would throw a hissy fit if there were one more stuffed ani- mal in the house. What's a person making a quick gro- cery drive-by on the way home from work for Valentine's insurance — er, romance — to do? At last, an answer! Let it be known far and wide that cheeses please the heart. I'm headed to the grocery to see whether any are on post-holiday sale. So romantic! Like Katiedid Langrock on Facebook, at http://www.facebook.com/katiedid- humor. FIRECRACKER BAKED SALMON MEALS IN Monica's MINUTES Share your favorite recipe! www.facebook.com/mealsinminutes Monica's Meals in Minutes PO Box 68, Petersburg, IN 47567 mealsinminutes@pressdispatch.net FACEBOOK MAIL EMAIL By Monica Sinclair It has been a while since I have put a seafood dish in my column. One popped into my email this week that I definite- ly need to try. Even if you don't like salmon, I am positive the marinade would taste good on shrimp or some other seafood. Luckily, I already have most of the ingredients, so I just need to buy some salmon and I'll be good to go. Enjoy! INGREDIENTS • 1 1/2 lb salmon fillet, no skin • 2 green onions chopped FOR MARINADE • 3 cloves garlic minced • 1 tsp fresh ginger minced • 1/4 cup olive oil • 1/4 cup soy sauce low sodium • 2 tbsp brown sugar • 1 tsp crushed red pepper flakes • 1 tbsp Sriracha sauce • 1 tsp ground black pepper DIRECTIONS 1. In a small bowl whisk all the marinade ingredi- ents together. 2. Place salmon in a baking dish and pour marinade over the salmon. Rub the marinade over both sides making sure the entire salmon is covered. Cover the baking dish with plastic wrap and let it mari- nate in the fridge for 2 hours up to 24 hours. 3. Preheat oven to 375 F degrees. 4. Remove the plastic wrap from the baking dish and bake for 15 to 20 minutes. Note that the baking time could vary depending on the thickness of the salmon. 5. Garnish with chopped green onions and serve im- mediately. Source: yummly.com