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The Press-Dispatch Wednesday, June 14, 2017 D-1 HOME LIFE TO ADVERTISE: Call: 812-354-8500 Email: ads@pressdispatch.net Visit: 820 E. Poplar Street, Petersburg Deadline: 5 p.m. on Monday Real difficulties can be overcome; it is the imaginar y ones that are unconquerable. THEODORE VAIL Family Talk by By Dr. James C. Dobson Six keys to a healthy parent-child relationship THE DEADLINE FOR ALL REAL ESTATE ADS IS 5 P.M. EVERY MONDAY e Car Wash BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY 9969 E. State Road 56, Otwell MLS #201721348 $ 112,500 Well-maintained, 3-bay manual car and large vehicle wash. Located at Otwell Junction (State Roads 56 and 257) on 1 acre parcel. Additional income opportunity with leasing enclosed 24x31 area. Listed by: Dara O'Neil 812-631-3654 2805 E. C.R. 375 S., Winslow • 12.58 acre property has an original 1885-built log cabin • Includes 32' fifth-wheel travel trailer hooked up to septic, water and electric. $69,900 Visit Zillow.com for more photos and details. Marté Nelson-Daves Principal Broker/Owner PIKE COUNTY Live the Dream Call: 812-789-9510 Text: 812-766-0690 Email: martenelsondaves@live.com See our listings on Zillow, Trulia, Yahoo Real Estate and more! SCAN THE QR CODE with your smartphone to see all my listings Open House Next Sunday! JUNE 25 FROM 1-3 P.M. HOME FOR SALE "Relaxed and Quiet Seing" 3 bedroom, 1 bath, central air, gas furnace, 2 car detached garage, ¾ basement. 10504 S. Broadway, Stendal • $ 44,900 CALL: 812-309-0056 HOUSE FOR SALE 210 N. 8th St., Petersburg, IN 47567 Nice Home Call Prent Stafford for details, 812-582-8994 2 bedrooms, 1 bath, laundry room, carport, and outbuilding. Very Clean. Estate Auction Saturday, June 17 - 9:00 a.m. Graber Auctions ~ 812-254-2220 Mark J. Graber - AU19400133 At Graber Auctions, 1382 S. State Road 257, Washington OWNERS: JEC Farms, LLC, Arvin and Blake 4-wheeler, Fishing Boats, Mower and Tools: Arctic Cat 250; 2 aluminum fishing boats with trailers (one has motor); John Deere 225 Hydro w/bagger; Echo trimmer; Yardman chipper; 4 Corvette wheels and tires; Fuel tank and stand, moisture checker; folding ext. ladders; rod and reels; Rockwell Rec saw; air compressor; butchering kettle w/stand; meat saw; traps; fur boards; chicken coops; chicken feeders; Brooder; several pcs of barn metal; 6 pane hand tools; metal lawn chairs; 2017 Griffen 6x10 tandem axle dump trailer and much more. Furniture – Appliance -Household: (2) 3-piece bedroom suite; (3) twin beds (cherry and oak); 2 sofas; end tables; 2 kitchen dinette tables w/ chairs; La-Z-Boy recliner; Glider rocker; sev. chairs; entertainment center; baker's rack; utility cart; solid wood bookcase; shelving; chest of drawers; dressers; bar stools; office chair; Kenmore refrigerator; 2 chest freezers; Whirlpool washer and dryer; Hotpoint elec range; GE elec range; Maytag wringer washer; Speed Queen wringer washer; Maytag portable dishwasher; mini fridge; microwave; lamps; safe; Oreck Sweeper; Singer sewing machine; Necchi sewing machine; Bearcat scanner; Weather radio; Fry Daddy; Sunbeam mixer; crockpots; Salad Master stainless steel cookware set; stainless steel pots and pans; humidifier; Coleman camping stove; Presto pressure cooker; several card tables and chairs. Antiques and collectibles: High back vintage bed frame; wicker bassinet and wicker rocker; school desk; Pepsi sign; Marathon box; advertising pieces; Washington nail apron; 1950 Daviess Co. plat book; Tru-Val seed sack; Blue Grass Shovels; costume jewelry; RC Cola cooler; egg baskets; REMC thermometer; Coca-Cola items; wooden shot box; cigar boxes; blue jars; quilts; Princess Di doll; Longaberger baskets; China sets; Apollo pitcher and glasses; Indiana glass; world globe; pottery flower pots; Fenton; punch bowls; hanging lamps; picnic basket; porcelain bowls; records; cake plate; kids' books; 1911 Zane Grey books; trunks; kerosene lamps. Guns: Gun cabinet; SKS 7.62 x 39 Norinco KS1; Winchester .22 Model190; JC Higgins Model 583- 1101 20 ga.; Glenfield Marlin Model 160 .22cal.; JC Higgins Model 103229 22cal.; Ruger GP100 357 magnum; 22 cal. 6 Shot Pistol Burbo; .22 cal. RG; .22 cal. RG; Phoenix .25 Auto; Red Ryder BB gun; pocket knives; Fish Knife Schrade USA Uncle Henry. GROFF CONSIGNMENT AUCTION 3 Mi. N. of Lawrenceville, IL Saturday, June 24 • 9am CDT Alva McDowell, Auctioneer 618-943-4505 IL Lic #440.000003 Website: groffequipment.com Like us on Facebook Now Taking Consignments Tractors & Trucks, Construction Equipment, Farm Implements. Hauling Available New Absolute Row Added For Full Listing, Updates and Pictures Go To AuctionZip.com REAL ESTATE AUCTION Saturday, June 24 • 2 p.m. EDT 10 Acres +/- White Oak Area For more information or inspection, contact: Hill's Auction Center WM Keith Hill IN #AU01020879 (812) 789-6367 or Jason Keeker (812) 354-2419 Auction service www.hillsauctionservice.com Located: 4 miles west of JCT. 257 and 56, Otwell, IN. Then south 2 miles on CR 725 E. (State Forest Rd.), near White Oak. Excellent location for home site, farming, hunting, woods, pasture and investors. Auctioneer's Note: Auction conducted at Hill's Auction Center. Owner: Terry Kempf PUBLIC AUCTION FARMALL "M" TRACTOR - 2 ATVS FURNISHINGS – COLLECTIBLES – TOOLS & CHEST Go to our websites - www.mobleygrant.com or auctionzip.com #2499 Like us on Facebook: Mobley & Grant Auctioneers Seller: Kevin Whitehouse P.O.A. for Thelma Oscar Auction Location: The "Wheeling" Community - from Princeton, IN, take St. Rd. 64 East 4 miles to Co. Rd. 550E, then North 5 miles to 375 N, then East to Auction. Signs will be posted. 6620 E. 350 N, Francisco, IN 47649 100+ PHOTOS ON WEB 100+ PHOTOS ON WEB AUCTION DATE: SATURDAY, JUNE 17, 2017 STARTING AT 10:00 A.M. (SLOW TIME) TRACTOR - ATVS - TOOLS - BOAT Good Farmall "m" Tractor w/N.F.E., PTO, Drawbar, Honda Fourtrax 250 ATV; Yamaha Timber Wolf ATV - not running; like-new Craftsman Limited Edition 3-section tool chest on rollers; good variety of hand and power tools, including: grinders, saws, buffers, drills, wrenches, drivers - you name it! Duracraft table mount drill; Ford 8000 tractor; good dolly; portable compressor and more; 14 ft. Jon boat and older Holsclaw trailer (no title); 2 old cutboard motors; group river nets; flatbed wagon; extension and stepladders; platform scales. FURNISHINGS - COLLECTIBLES - MISCELLANEOUS Like new Maytag H.D. washer and dryer set; Kenmore 18 cu. ft. refrigerator/freezer with ice maker; small kitchen appliances; Kenmore 8 cu. ft. chest freezer; lots of good, clean cookware, dishes, utensils, etc.; large selection of Kings Crown and Cape Cod glassware; nice modern stepback cabinet; Kenmore "Red" micro; 24", 4-door curio cabinet; loads of decorations; service for 8 silverplate flatware; dark pine table with 6 chairs; oak office desk; chair; pine chests; Grays "light blue" custom sewing machine in cabinet; electric fireplace; nice oak enter- tainment center 4' wide; Bassett 4-piece full/queen bedroom set; 4-piece bed set with full bed; Legacy weight bench and weights; Proform treadmill; old shelf clock; occasional chairs and loads of miscellaneous items. Come see what we find! Over 100 photographs on the websites. - AUCTION TERMS - Cash or check with I.D. Visa, MasterCard, American Express accepted. Food and restrooms on-site. PH: (618) 262-7691 • MT. CARMEL, IL 62863 • smgrant54@hotmail.com Stu Grant: IL LIC# 040000313 & IN LIC# AU19400048 Bryan Grant: IL LIC# 441.00250 & IN LIC# AU11700011 AUCTIONEERS "Celebrating our 43rd year in the auction business" As a father, you are go- ing to confront contests of wills with your daughter many times. In those moments where your authori- ty as a parent is challenged, it is extremely im- portant for you to "win." Why? Because a child who behaves in ways that are disrespect- ful or harmful to herself or others often has a hid- den motive. Whether she recognizes it or not, she is usually seeking to verify the existence and stability of the boundaries. A child who defies the leadership of her parents is reassured when they remain confi- dent and firm under fire. It creates a sense of secu- rity for a kid who lives in a structured environment in which the rights of oth- er people (and her own) are protected by well-de- fined limits. With that said, here are the how-to's of shaping a child's will. I've boiled this complex topic down to six straightforward guidelines that I hope will be helpful, the first of which is most important… First: Begin Teaching Respect for Authority While Children Are Very Young The most urgent advice I can give to the parents of an assertive, independent child is to establish their positions as strong but lov- ing leaders when Missy is in the preschool years. This is the first step to- ward helping her learn to control her powerful im- pulses. Alas, there is no time to lose, because a nat- urally defiant youngster is in a high-risk category for antisocial behavior later in life. She is more likely to challenge her teachers in school and question the values she has been taught. Her temperament leads her to oppose anyone who tries to tell her what to do. For- tunately, this outcome is not inevitable, because the complexities of the human personality make it impos- sible to predict behavior with complete accuracy. But the probabilities lie in that direction. Thus, you must begin shaping the will of the particularly aggres- sive child very early in life. (Notice that I did not say to crush her will or to destroy it or to snuff it out, but to rein it in for her own good.) But how is that accom- plished? Well, first let me tell you how not to approach that objective. Harshness, gruff- ness and sternness are not effective in shaping a child's will. Likewise, con- stant whacking and threat- ening and criticizing are destructive and counter- productive. A parent who is mean and angry most of the time is creating resent- ment that will be stored and come roaring into the re- lationship during adoles- cence or beyond. There- fore, every opportunity should be taken to keep the tenor of the home pleasant, fun and accepting. At the same time, however, par- ents should display confi- dent firmness in their de- meanor. You, Dad, are the boss. You are in charge. If you believe it, your daugh- ter will accept it also. Second: Define the Boundaries before They Are Enforced Preceding any discipli- nary event is the necessity of establishing reasonable expectations and bound- aries for the child. She should know what is and is not acceptable behavior before she is held responsi- ble for it. This precondition will eliminate the sense of injustice that a youngster feels when she is punished or scolded for violating a vague or unidentified rule. Third: Distinguish between Willful Defiance and Childish Irresponsibility There is a world of differ- ence between childish irre- sponsibility and "willful de- fiance." Understanding the distinction will be useful in knowing how to interpret the meaning of a behavior and how to respond to it ap- propriately. For instance, children regularly spill things, lose things, break things, for- get things and mess up things. That's the way kids are made. These behav- iors represent the mecha- nism by which children are protected from adult-level cares and burdens. When accidents happen, patience and tolerance are the order of the day. If the foolish- ness was particularly pro- nounced for the age and maturity of the individu- al, you might want to have the youngster help with the cleanup or even work to pay for the loss. Otherwise, I think the event should be ignored. There is another cate- gory of behavior, howev- er, that is strikingly differ- ent. It occurs when a child blatantly defies the author- ity of the parent. She may shout "I will not! " or "You shut up! " or "You can't make me." It may happen when she throws a violent temper tantrum in order to get her way. These be- haviors represent a willful, haughty spirit and a deter- mination to disobey. Some- thing very different is go- ing on in those moments. You have drawn a line in the dirt, and she has delib- erately stepped across it. You're both asking, "Who is going to win? Who is in charge here? " If you do not conclusively answer these questions for her, she will precipitate other bat- tles designed to ask them again and again. Fourth: Reassure and Teach after the Confrontation Is Over A fter a time of conflict during which you have demonstrated your right to lead (particularly if it resulted in tears for the child), the youngster be- tween two and seven (or older) will probably want to be loved and reassured. By all means, open your arms and let her come! Hold her close and tell her of your love. Rock her gently and let her know again why she was punished and how she can avoid the trouble next time. This is a teachable moment, when the objec- tive of your discipline can be explained. And for the Christian family, it is ex- tremely important to pray with the child at that time, admitting to God that we have all sinned and no one is perfect. Divine forgive- ness is a marvelous experi- ence, even for a very young child. Fifth: Avoid Impossible Demands Be absolutely sure that your child is capable of de- livering what you require. Never punish her for wet- ting the bed involuntar- ily or for not becoming potty-trained by one year of age or for doing poorly in school when she is in- capable of academic suc- cess. These impossible de- mands put the child in an ir- resolvable conflict: there is no way out. That condition brings unnecessary risks to the human emotional ap- paratus. Besides that, it is simply unjust. Sixth: Let Love Be Your Guide! A relationship that is characterized by genuine love and affection is like- ly to be a healthy one, even though some parental mis- takes and errors are in- evitable. These six steps should form the foundation for healthy parent-child re- lationships. A relationship that is characterized by genuine love and affection is likely to be a healthy one. From Dads and Daugh- ters by Dr. James Dobson.