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C-4 Wednesday, November 28, 2018 The Press-Dispatch HOME LIFE TO ADVERTISE: Call: 812-354-8500 Email: ads@pressdispatch.net Visit: 820 E. Poplar Street, Petersburg Deadline: 5 p.m. on Monday Youth First Today by Dawn Tedrow, Youth First, Inc. No excuses – Hold kids accountable for actions Katiedid vs... by Katiedid Langrock Floor picnic My son perfected his excuses for missing homework around sixth grade, and for some reason it became my problem. That's a strange thing for a parent to say, but I really felt as though teachers were accusing me of not being an adequate parent because I couldn't ensure my child completed his homework at home. This created a dynamic between the teachers and me, allowing my son to step back and play his games while I hashed it out with school. Everyone was working harder for his success, and he had manipulated me into be- lieving he was the victim. It was toward the end of his eighth grade year that I admitted defeat, and finally realized the problem was ME. I was not listening to the information given to me by the teacher, because in my head, I was being told "You are a bad parent" – and it was hurtful. The tone of my voice when talking about the teacher became negative, and my son fueled this. He even went to school and told his teachers, "My mom doesn't like you, and it makes her mad when you call her." I was my own worst enemy. Taking a look at how I responded to teacher concerns was a big help for me. Instead of taking the information as a personal attack, I reminded myself the teacher was attempting to form a positive alliance to determine why he was not turning in homework. I hadn't taught my son to be accountable and take responsibility for his actions. Here are some suggestions for teaching this skill: • Model positive communication with the teacher, and encourage the same from your child. When your child begins making negative state- ments about their teacher, redirect them to think about things they like about the teacher. • Practice appropriate respons- es. There is an appropriate time and way to let the teacher know your child needs help or you don't agree with a decision. • Help your child see things from another's point of view. This is particularly helpful for students who believe their teacher doesn't like them. • Do not make excuses for your child. Teach them to own their mis- takes. Everyone makes mistakes, and it's alright. Teach your child to admit their mistakes, then think of ways to prevent it from happening again. • Encourage your child to pro- cess their feelings appropriately. It is perfectly normal to become up- set, but it isn't appropriate to throw a fit in the classroom. Practice ways your child can excuse themselves from the classroom in order to calm down. Discourage yelling, throwing things, slamming the door and calling names. • Be prepared to side with the teacher. Your natural instinct is to pro- tect your child, so this is difficult for many parents. It may be necessary to take 24 hours to think about informa- tion and decide how to respond to the situation. Your child needs to know you support them, but you must also respect the teacher. It is your responsi- bility to help mold your child into a suc- cessful member of society who treats others with respect. This is a skill that will be used in college, jobs and future relationships. • Set clear expectations. Sit down with your child and write clear conse- quences for their actions. For example: Student is told he will lose cell phone for 24 hours if he has missing home- work. • Follow through. It is very im- portant to always follow through with consequences. There is no negotiation. If you don't follow through with conse- quences every single time, then behav- ior will continue to escalate. It may not be the easiest thing to do as a parent, but it's worth it. Hold- ing kids accountable for their actions will help mold them into successful, re- sponsible adults. This column is written by Dawn Tedrow, LCSW, school social worker for Youth First, Inc., a local nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides 54 Mas- ter's level social workers to 75 schools in 10 Indiana counties. Over 38,000 youth and families per year have access to Youth First's school social work and afterschool programs that prevent sub- stance abuse, promote healthy behaviors, and maximize student success. Location: 7891 S. St. Rd. 61, Oakland City, IN View photos on auctionzip.com, I.D. number 46613 Terms and Conditions: Cash or check with proper I.D.; announcements day of auction take precedence over previous advertisements; buying everything as is, where is. 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VEG-ALL CHICKEN POT PIE MEALS IN Monica's MINUTES Share your favorite recipe! www.facebook.com/mealsinminutes Monica's Meals in Minutes PO Box 68, Petersburg, IN 47567 mealsinminutes@pressdispatch.net FACEBOOK MAIL EMAIL By Monica Sinclair There are many nights when I get home from work that I am tired and I don't really want to cook. However, with a hungry family I need to find something to make for them. Cooking a big meal is out of the question. In- stead, this week's recipe com- bines a whole meal into one dish and is very easy to prepare. Al- so, it helps me to be sure that the kids are eating their vegetables. Enjoy! INGREDIENTS • 2 cans cream of potato soup • 1 (16 oz.) can Veg-All, drained • 2 c. diced cooked chicken • 1/2 c. milk • 1/2 tsp. thyme • 1/4 tsp. black pepper • 2 (9") refrigerated pie crusts • 1 egg, beaten, optional DIRECTIONS 1. Combine first six ingredients. Spoon into crust. 2. Top with the top crust. Crimp edges to seal. 3. Slit top crust and brush with egg if desired. 4. Bake at 375 degrees for 40 minutes or until crust is done. Cool 10 minutes. Source: Cooks.com We were never dining room kind of people. For years, I thought it was a before-its-time minimalist museum, boasting its sole piece of art: the table, com- plete with expansion wings for an extended family that would never sit at it, lit for display by its own personal chandelier. Very Andy War- hol. Surely, we must have ventured into the dining room for a dinner deemed fancy enough to risk the carpet stains, though I don't recall this time in my child- hood, nor are there pictures to prove its occurrence. Ear- ly memories of Thanksgiv- ing are not of that room. They are of a blanket on the floor for a turkey day picnic. Floor picnics always felt intimate and novel and a bit naughty, and they were endlessly fun. Perhaps this is why the pomp and circum- stance of the holiday is a bit lost on me. As the years rolled for- ward, we moved farther and farther from the din- ing room table. We would meet my parents' friends at a buffet, where my dad and I would wear full Na- tive American costumes — something that surely would be frowned upon by many as being insensitive cultur- al appropriation today and was most definitely offen- sive to some back then, but we hadn't a clue. When the restaurant closed — in no part because of discrimina- tion lawsuits brought on by our attire, I hope — we be- gan spending the day at an- other family friend's house. We did this for years, until a fight I had with the host over an episode of "Friends" led me to make a very dramatic procla- mation that I was never going back to that house. My parents could go if they chose, but I would be having Thanksgiving at home. The next year was the first Thanksgiving I recall having in the dining room. As a teenager, it was both a shock and empowering that my parents opted to let me win that round. (Clear- ly, they must have secretly taken my side in the great "Friends" debate.) For the first time in my memory, my parents took on the arduous task of cooking a massive meal for our little family. To date, it is tied for first place as my favorite meal I've ev- er had at that table. The sec- ond was just two years ago, when my brother, my cous- ins and all of our babies, de- spite terrifying illnesses and great distances, came together to eat and drink and give thanks. College soon followed, and because of my distance from home, I would spend the long weekend at the house of a friend who lived closer. It's when I had my first Lebanese Thanksgiv- ing — gold medal winner for the most delicious hol- iday meal. It was my intro- duction to Friendsgiving, in a dormitory filled with Oscar Mayer turkey cold cuts and ra- men noodles — gold medal win- ner for worst hol- iday meal I've ever had. Then there was trav- el. In New Zea- land, the only other Amer- ican and I made a feast for the whole hostel. It's amaz- ing how much poor cook- ing skills are forgiven by hungry backpackers. And then there was the restau- rant in Italy that lured in traveling Americans with a cheap Thanksgiving menu but charged us 2 euros for every bread roll we ate from the basket sitting on the ta- ble. Through all of this — the good, the bad and the prime-time-T V screaming matches — one word has always been missing from my personal descriptions of the holiday: tradition. I have my own young fam- ily now and an opportuni- ty to make Thanksgiving a day my kids will remember. There is something daunt- ing about creating a tradi- tion when you have none to pull from yourself. Do I make a turkey despite being a vegetarian? Do I set a full fancy table with eight cours- es like my beautiful Leba- nese friends, who were still eagerly waiting to become citizens? Perhaps in all the lack, there is one tradition I can pull from. 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