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The Press-Dispatch Home Life Wednesday, April 20, 2016 D- 7 THE DEADLINE FOR ALL REAL ESTATE ADS is 5 p.m. Monday Family Talk by By Dr. James C. Dobson Mutual accountability in a good marriage Sweet's Column by Barbara Sweet HOLIDAYS THIS WEEK April 20 Volunteer Recognition Day April 21 Kindergarten Day April 22 National Jelly Bean Day April 23 National Zucchini Bread Day April 24 Pigs in a Blanket Day April 25 World Penguin Day April 26 National Pretzel Day Source: HolidayInsights.com TURKEY AND SPINACH SALISBURY STEAKS By Monica Sinclair This week is not a recipe I have made yet. However, I have the ingredients written down for next week's grocery list. It's been a while since I have had salisbury steak, so when my husband found this week's rec- ipe on Facebook, I knew I had to try it. Once I looked up the ingredients and saw there were very few and how easy it was to put together, I decid- ed to share with my readers. It's also a good way to work in some vegetables for the kids. Enjoy! INGREDIENTS 1 pound 99 % fat free ground turkey breast 1 package (10 ounces) chopped frozen spin- ach, thawed and well drained 1/4 cup Italian sea- soned bread crumbs 1 can (10 1/2 ounces) Campbell's® Healthy Request® Condensed Cream of Mushroom Soup 2 tablespoons grated Parmesan cheese 1 clove garlic, crushed 2 teaspoons vegeta- ble oil 1 package (8 ounces) sliced mushrooms 1/2 cup non fat milk DIRECTIONS 1. Thoroughly mix the turkey, spinach, bread crumbs, 1/4 cup soup, cheese and garlic in a large bowl. Shape the turkey mixture into 4 ov- al-shaped patties. 2. Heat the oil in a 12-inch nonstick skillet over me- dium-high heat. Add the patties and cook until well browned on both sides. Remove the patties from the skillet. 3. Add the mushrooms to the skillet and cook for 5 minutes or until the mushrooms are tender, stir- ring occasionally. Stir in the remaining soup and the milk. Return the patties to the skillet. Re- duce the heat to low. Cook for 8 minutes or until the patties are cooked through. Source: www.campbellskitchen.com Share your favorite recipe! www.facebook.com/mealsinminutes Monica's Meals in Minutes PO Box 68, Petersburg, IN 47567 mealsinminutes@pressdispatch.net FACEBOOK MAIL EMAIL MEALS IN Monica's MINUTES By Dr. James C. Dobson www.drjamesdobson.org. The best way of keeping a marriage healthy is to maintain a system of mu- tual accountability, with the context of love. Speaking personally, the se- cret of my beautiful relationship with Shirley for the past 23 years has in- volved a careful protection of the "line of respect" between us. Suppose I work in my office two hours longer than usual on a particu- lar night, knowing Shirley is prepar- ing a special candlelight dinner. The phone sits there on my desk, but I lack the concern to make a brief call to explain. As the evening wears on, Shirley wraps the cold food in foil and puts it in the refrigerator. Then sup- pose when I finally get home, I do not apologize. Instead, I sit down with a newspaper and abruptly tell Shirley to get my dinner ready. You can bet there'll be a few minutes of fireworks in the Dobson household. Shirley will rightfully interpret my behavior as in- sulting and will move to defend the "line of respect" between us. We will talk it out and next time I'll be more considerate. Let's put the shoe on the other foot. Suppose Shirley knows I need the car at 2 p.m. for some important purpose, but she deliberately keeps me waiting. Perhaps she sits in a restaurant with a lady friend, drinking coffee and talk- ing. Meanwhile, I'm pacing the floor at home wondering where she is. It is very likely that my lovely wife will hear about my dissatisfaction when she gets home. The "line of respect" has been violated, even though the of- fense was minor. This is what I mean by mutual ac- countability. Such minor conflict in a marriage plays a positive role in es- tablishing what is and is not accept- able behavior. Some instances of dis- respect are petty, like the two examples I gave, but when they are permitted to pass unnoticed, two things hap- pen. First, the offender is un- aware that he has stepped over the line and is likely to repeat the indiscretion later. In fact, he may go farther in- to the other person's territo- ry the next time. Second, the person who felt insulted then internalizes the small irritation rath- er than spilling it out. As the interpre- tation of disrespect grows and the cor- responding agitation accumulates in a storage tank, the stage is set for an eventual explosion, rather than a se- ries of minor ventilations. What I'm saying is that some things are worth fighting over, and at the top of the list is the "line of respect." Most of my conflicts with Shirley have oc- curred over some behavior that one of us interpreted as unhealthy to the re- lationship. Shirley may say to me, in ef- fect, "Jim, what you did was selfish and I can't let it pass." She is careful not to insult me in the confrontation, keeping her criticism focused on the behavior to which she objected. A workable system of checks and balances of this nature helps a cou- ple keep their marriage on course for a marathon rather than a sprint. We are all riddled with imperfection and self-serving desires. Therefore, we need reinforcement and accountabil- ity in order to do what is right. I must hasten to offer an important disclaimer. Any recommendation can be carried to extremes, including de- fense of the "line of respect." There are women who need nothing less than an excuse to harangue their spouses over perceived violations of one sort or an- other. They do that better than anything else in life. Their poor husbands live with a constant barrage of complaints and criti- cisms, knowing they can do nothing right. Then here comes Dobson ad- vising, "Hold 'em account- able, ladies! " That's not what I intend- ed to say. Remember that 1 Corinthians 13:5 (K JV ) tells us love "is not easily provoked." That tolerance is certainly evident in good marriages. Husbands and wives must overlook a multitude of flaws in one another and not howl over the speck in a partner's eye when the accuser has a log sticking out of his own. Prolonged anger can kill a marriage, especially when it re- flects perceived wrongs from the past that have never been forgiven. Thus, the love must be tough con- cept does not suggest that people be- come touchy and picky; it does hold that genuine instances of disrespect should be acknowledged and handled within the context of love. And certain- ly, when major violations occur that threaten the relationship, they should be met head-on. In virtually every trou- bled family I see, the "line of respect" has crumbled. From Dr. Dobson's book, Love Must Be Tough. For over 30 years, Dr. James Dobson has been America's trusted source for psychologically sound, biblically based advice to help strengthen marriages, parents and families. For more prac- tical help and encouragement, visit: http://www.drjamesdobson.org. 812-598-3936 Lic. #AU10800006 FARM CONSIGNMENT AUCTION SATURDAY, APRIL 30 10:00 A.M. CDT Tractors, Implements, Farm Machinery, Vehicles, Trailers, ATVs, Lawn & Garden Items, Trees & Shrubs and much more. 114 E SR 68, Lynnville Hi stars and welcome to this big stage all lit up in colorful lights and decorat- ed to help celebrate with all our stars who will have a birthday or anniversary in the week of April 21 to 29, don't be too shy and come on up to this big stage and take a bow. April 21 – Debbie Meyer will be 58, Avery Atkins will be 11, Dallas Reutepohler will be 11. April 22 – Kaeda Boyles will be 27, Brian Kinman will be 53, Frank and Ra- chael Heuring will celebrate their 66th wedding anniver- sary. April 24 – Kayla Willis will be 22, Daniel Grubb will be 24, Darrell Taylor will be 55, Lisha Ketchum will be 53, Dan and Amy Carnahan will celebrate their 17th wed- ding anniversary. April 25 – Dustin Tuell will be 11 and Betty Sulli- van. April 26 – Mick Aldridge, Chris Edrington will be 76. May all our stars have a really great day and all your wishes come true. Keep in your heart and your prayers all our stars who need to know that they are thought of each day through the cards, vis- its, phone calls and that dai- ly thought like Lanora Kel- ley, Dee Warner and Bren- da Gish. Events coming up in Winslow and the surround- ing areas: April 21 – Winslow Lions Club at 7 p.m. at The Trading Post. April 22 – Passover be- gins. April 25 – Winslow Town Hall meeting at 7 p.m. April 30 – Winslow Ma- sonic Lodge #260 will host a pork chop dinner from 4- 7 p.m. May 3 – Election Day for voting. May 7 – Petersburg City Wide Yard Sale. Poehlein's Spring Bass Tourney will be hosted in memory of Jeff Perry, who was a multi- ple time winner of the tour- nament. The time is 5 a.m. to 5 p.m. at Greg Poehlein's cabin. Contact Greg at 812- 789 -3778 for entry and rules. May 8 – Mother's Day. Winslow seniors meet on Monday and Tuesday at the Snyder Community Center. Petersburg seniors meets in the court house base- ment on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Friday. No postcards, no point of interest this week but the mailbox is always checked at Sweet's Column, Winslow, IN 47598. The Patoka River is up to the bank but not overflow- ing. The Riverside Park has several ponds of water on the south side in the park. I hope spring weather is here to stay and it does feel so good to go outside with- out a winter coat on. The wasps are out in swarms so look out for those varmints. Have you opened up the win- dows and doors, yet? We have but at night it's a little chilly, so down the windows go again. We planted some flower seeds of Black-eyed Susans and we both hope they come up. I saw some peonies with buds on them and the tulips are full of col- or and the lilac bushes have more blooms on them. The squirrels are chasing each other and the birds have a lovely song they sing and we all don't like snakes, but the black ones are out. Junee B's in Oakland City has been open for a couple of weeks now and I love the small twist cones. Keep an eye open in Winslow for when The Igloo opens. They have hit another snag. The Winslow Ball League had their parade on Satur- day to open the season and those kids were so happy as they threw out candy to all of the stars along Main Street. There were about 10 teams, but his is only a guess. Good luck to all the play- ers and their coaches and most of all "have fun." Hey, relatives of John and Mary Poehlein, we will have our 75th year reunion Au- gust 14 at the Winslow Com- munity Center with a ca- tered meal, auction, games for kids and adults, and Ger- man music. So if you have a CD with your German favor- ite, could you bring it with you and since this is the 75th year with a catered meal, if you would like to bring a dessert. Pictures will be taken in families so bring your best smile with you and see you there. Our theme this year is Family Reflections. There will be bumper stickers and more to celebrate the 75th anniversary of family fun with friends and family. I believe our cold or what- ever both had is gone and knock on wood we hope it stays away and you don't get it either. As the lights dim on this week's rambling, I hope you keep an eye on family and friends, lawnmowers are out so be careful, spring clean- ing is here and soon on May 19, 20 and 21 – Pike Coun- ty Spring Clean-Up will be available. Slow down and en- joy the life around you and always smile, wave and say "hi" to everyone this week. pects for the rest of his life be- cause he smarted off to a ser- geant. Or did he? As my prisoner nodded off and fell asleep, I saw something that sickened my stomach, tightened my throat and made me a little dizzy. Even today it quickens my breathing when I think about it: he was still sneer- ing, still smirking. His lip was still curled, even when he was asleep. He couldn't help it! God forgive me: an hour earlier I was mentally re- hearsing the chokeholds I was going to put on this kid, how I would bring my elbow up to smash that insolent mouth, all – as it turns out - because I didn't like the appearance of a man made in God's image. I've very little doubt that the Summary Court Mar- tial officer had the same re- action to this soldier's appar- ent sneer as I had. I wonder if even the "disrespected" NCO misinterpreted his attitude. What must that guy have en- dured since then? What made me think about this, after almost 38 years, was a Bosse High School se- nior whom Pike Central fans may remember as #30. They certainly remember him at Reitz, for his go-ahead layup at the buzzer of Bosse's upset victory, after trailing by 17 in the third quarter. At 6'3" and 185 pounds, with long flow- ing braids and eyelids at half- mast, I sized him up as a bi- cycle thief, perhaps about to graduate to purse-snatcher. Well, how about a 3.56 GPA? How about the 2016 Arthur L Trester Award (for mental attitude, scholarship, leadership, and athletic abil- ity)? Damon Bailey won it in 1990. Bobby Plump, of Milan, won it in 1954. Future Rhodes Scholar and U.S. Congress- man Lee Hamilton of Evans- ville Central won it in 1948. Bosse player Jim Myers won it in 1939 (back when it was called the Gimbel Medal), and returned to coach Bosse to a state championship in 1962, the last time a Bosse player - John Wilson - won the Trest- er. Now add Ethan Thomas to that list. I went on the Internet and watched an interview of young Thomas. He was artic- ulate, self-effacing, and gen- erous to a fault, quick to give credit to his teammates, his captain and his coach. Every- thing he said was construc- tive, respectful and intelli- gent. Purse-snatcher? Shame on me. My hat's off to you, Ethan Thomas. You have earned ev- erybody's trust and respect, and you have my best wishes. Lest you write me off as a crabby, judgmental old man who thinks the worst of ev- erybody, though, let me just add that I'm often wrong about people in the opposite direction. I'm the guy who of- ten places trust in the wrong people. I'm usually the last to suspect a couple of an illicit romance, even after it's com- mon knowledge. I'm usually the guy most shocked by an authority's hypocrisy or be- trayals. It's easy to say "you can't judge a book by its cover." It sounds very wise and gener- ous of spirit. But obviously you have to judge most books by their covers. You can't just randomly read entire books in order to ascertain their topic. Perhaps, though, we can get a lot better at it. There are digests, reviews, tables of contents and indices, after all. There are books about how to read a book by its cover. For example, there is an extensive literature of body language, or nonverbal com- munication. The 1970 classic Body Language was written by novelist Julius Fast, who was not a social scientist. The field has since become very crowded. Nonverbal commu- nication has been elaborated and specialized, and much of it is grounded in rigorous so- cial science research. Psychologist David Lieb- erman has written a related work, Never Be Lied to Again, which includes body language passages that sound like song titles: "the head shift," "the posture of a liar," "the uncon- scious cover-up," "the lan- guage of the eyes" and "the body never lies." Of course, there's a Body Language for Dummies, this by Elizabeth Kuhnke, who maintains a thriving Florida business communication con- sulting practice. You can play offense or de- fense in body language. Al- though much of the literature is devoted to analyzing other people's true intentions and opinions, there is a growing sub-genre of books on how salesmen, businessmen and politicians can project their chosen image by means of body language. Social scientists Vincent Leong's and Leow Chee Seng's 277-page Body Lan- guage Exposed is a remedial work for people who self-sab- otage via body language. Its subtitle is Find Out How Your Body Can Betray You. Leong's and Seng's unique contribu- tion to the field is their re- search about the combination of different body language gestures and expressions. There's even a "TED talk" online about how to change your own character by chang- ing your body language. I think they're onto something here. I don't know about the body language gambit, but I hope to improve my character by changing the preliminary hypotheses I form about oth- ers. Maybe a few stinkers will get past me, but I'd rather be wrong about them than about young Ethan Thomas. JUDGE Continued from page 6