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C-4 Wednesday, December 19, 2018 The Press-Dispatch HOME LIFE TO ADVERTISE: Call: 812-354-8500 Email: ads@pressdispatch.net Visit: 820 E. Poplar Street, Petersburg Deadline: 5 p.m. on Monday Youth First Today by Jana Pritchett ,Youth First, Inc. What kids really need this holiday season Katiedid vs... by Katiedid Langrock Frosty photos To enter the Birthday Club, email your name, ad- dress, phone number and birthdate to birthdayclub@ pressdispatch.net. Only the person's name, town and birthday will appear in the paper. As an added bonus, one lucky person each month will receive a free three month Press-Dispatch subscrip- tion. This month's birthdays have a chance to win a $25 gift certificate to Make Me Unique Boutique. THIS WEEK'S BIRTHDAYS Clint DeCoursey ........................ Petersburg .....12/19 Wilma Jones ................................. Otwell ........12/19 Kathy Poselwait ......................... Petersburg .....12/21 Sarah McCracken ...................... Petersburg .....12/21 Mary Williams ........................... Petersburg .... 12/24 THIS MONTH'S SPONSOR 711 E. Main St. Petersburg • 812-582-0850 Follow Us on Facebook! Christmas is almost here, and kids everywhere are hoping to be on San- ta's good list. Interactive toys like the Nintendo Switch and Hatchimals are on many kids' lists, as are classics like Legos, Play-Doh and Barbie. We all hope to give our children the presents they want, but what do our kids really need from adults this holi- day season? What gifts can mom, dad or grandparents provide to help them become happy, healthy, successful adults? HERE IS MY LIST OF THE ESSENTIALS: • Security and stability. Kids need the basics – food, shelter, cloth- ing, medical care and protection. In ad- dition, a stable home and family envi- ronment make them feel safe, and be- ing part of a family gives them a sense of belonging. • Full attention. Be present. Turn off your phone, the T V, and all gadgets and listen to them, especially at meal times and bedtime. Removing dis- tractions lets them know they're spe- cial and there's no need to compete for your attention. • Time. Spend quality family time together. Take the whole family to pick out a Christmas tree or to see a ball- game or holiday concert. Take each child on mom and dad "dates" to cre- ate special memories and boost their self-esteem, especially if they're used to sharing parent time with siblings. Spending quality time together en- courages deeper conversations and strengthens the bonds between par- ent and child. • Love. Saying and showing your kids you love them can help overcome just about any parenting "mistake" you might make. Even when your kids have disappointed, frustrated, angered or disobeyed you, they must know you will always love them. • Affection. Don't wait for your children to come to you for hugs. Reg- ular physical affection helps strength- en and maintain your emotional con- nection with kids of any age. When that bond is strong, kids act out less often and know they can come to you for support. • Emotional support. Through good and bad times, kids must know you are there for them. According to Dr. Harley Rotbart of Children's Hos- pital Colorado, "Parents' words and ac- tions should facilitate kids' trust, re- spect, self-esteem, and ultimately, in- dependence." • Consistency. Parents need to work together to enforce rules. Im- portant values should not be compro- mised for the sake of convenience or because the kids have worn you down. If parents are no longer married, mom and dad should still try to communi- cate and work together whenever pos- sible to maintain consistency. • Positive role models. Parents are their kids' first and most important role models. Kids see plenty of bad be- havior in the media. Be the kind of per- son you want them to become and don't just give "lip service" to good behavior. • Education. Give your kids the best possible shot for their future by stressing the importance of education. Providing guidance and teaching them life lessons during the time you spend together is also important. Spending quality time with your kids is the best solution for just about any parenting dilemma. This holiday season and in the New Year, don't stop with what's on your child's wish list. Give them what they really need – the gift of being the best parent you can be. This column is written by Jana Pritch- ett, Communications Manager for Youth First, Inc., a local nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides 54 Master's level social workers to 75 schools in 10 Indiana counties. Over 38,000 youth and fami- lies per year have access to Youth First's school social work and after-school pro- grams that prevent substance abuse, pro- mote healthy behaviors, and maximize student success. 21st OFFERS FINANCING FOR: HOME ONLY LAND HOME LAND IN LIEU BUY-FOR USED HOME FINANCING SECONDARY HOUSING VISIT: Apply.21stMortgage.com FAX: 1.877.312.2100 *Certain loan conditions must be met. NO APPLICATION FEES OR OTHER OBLIGATIONS TO APPLY. WE FINANCE CREDIT SCORES ALL * 814 Niblack Blvd., Vincennes • 1-800-743-7004 www.bairdvincennes.com HOMES * Certain Terms and Conditions Apply DON'T WAIT UNTIL THE NEW YEAR! Now is the time to buy a new home! NEW HOMES ARRIVING. Get your plans together and come see us. We can help you find the perfect home and can help with financing! All Credit Scores Accepted "I can't take the picture if you're cry- ing." Every parent who has ever attempt- ed professional family photos has prob- ably heard that sentence uttered. But when the photographer said it, she was talking to me. My children had long gone inside the house. The freezing temperature outside and subsequent death glare from my daughter had cut the fami- ly portion of the photography session short. These pictures were, after all, just a nice addition to the booking. I needed new pictures for my website, and seeing as we were paying some- one to come to the house and shoot photos anyway, why not get a few of the family against the gorgeous colors of the changing trees? The 27-degree wind chill quickly broke that plan — as well as my daughter's fever, which magically spiked to 102 degrees at the mention of going outside but was gone by the time I came back in from my session and found her happily cud- dled on the couch in front of a movie. If she had been older than 3, I'd have ac- cused her of tampering with the ther- mometer. But knowing her age and her sheer will, I believe she can summon and send away a fever with a snap of her tiny fingers. I had no such fever. I was not so lucky. I, along with the frosty photographer, remained outside for the long haul. Nothing about the conditions was suitable for picture taking. The sky was gray. The wind slapped across my face, causing my nose to go Ru- dolph red and my eyes to tear up. The selected sleeveless outfit was no help, either. If I hadn't been about to head out of town for work, I would have re- scheduled. By the time I was to return, the trees surely were going to be bare. Despite the bit- terness, this was the last op- portunity to look cozy and free on the outside, even if inside was frostbitten, rigid and surly. Photographs and I have never been friends. I im- agine that it began around the time when my cousins all, in a single year, seemed to become professional models. Smil- ing for pictures was less about joy and more about your professional future. It marked a change in the assessment of pictures. Whereas it was once about capturing true life, it became more about the objective beauty we could de- termine and pick apart. I wonder, in the age of Instagram, whether my daugh- ter will ever know that pictures can be snapshots of pleasure or whether she'll see them only as things to build up or tear down her growing self-esteem. I wonder whether my son will fall prey to the same filtered life. Perhaps that is why my tongue is sticking out in nearly every one of my wedding photos, why for years my friends commented on how I'm eating food or making a crazy face in every photo. It was a rebellion of the expec- tation — rejecting the beauty require- ment and forcing the lens to capture my essence. But these frosty pictures were for work. They had to look professional. They needed to scream "read me; trust me; know me." I insisted we take pic- tures of me on my kids' swing. And I had tears streaming down my cheeks as the wind whipped my face. Not sure the tears sent the right message. Come one, come all! Learn to write with profes- sional television writer and columnist Katiedid Langro- ck and you, too, can spend your evenings crying on a playground! Marketing experts say to make the pictures of you something others will aspire to. Clear- ly, I will solely be attracting those who are dead inside and longing to feel and folks suffering from aqueous tear-de- ficient dry eye. By golly, she's crying! Right here on her homepage! Maybe if I learn to write with Katiedid, my glands will produce teardrops of equal measure! The photographer gave me a blan- ket to wrap around my body as we took photos. When it became too much, we moved inside. I made a pot of coffee. Tried to thaw my face. Reapplied my mascara, which had streaked down my cheeks. We sat in my writing room. She took pictures as I sipped the coffee. "I can't take the picture if you're crying," the photographer said. "I know," I cried and laughed simul- taneously. "It's just, it feels so good to be warm, and the coffee is so good." "I think the cold got to your brain," she said as she clicked her camera. True. Life. Captured. Like Katiedid Langrock on Facebook, at www.facebook.com/katiedidhumor. REAL ESTATE TRANSFERS Shawhan Family Farm LLC, Jo Ann Shawhan Fami- ly Trust and Tommy P. Bennington Trustee convey to Terry Brown and Valerie Brown, real estate as record- ed in Pike County. Dorothy G. Hensley conveys to Dorothy G. Hens- ley and Connie M. Hensley, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Cup Creek General Baptist Church, Richard Russell Trustee, Leonard Lee Trustee, Ray Wellmeyer Trust- ee and Larry Riesenbeck Trustee convey to Cup Creek Cemetery, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Carolyn Joyce Wilson and The Carolyn Joyce Wil- son Trust convey to David Gilmour Consulting LLC and Gilmour Homes, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Steven W. Tignor conveys to Donald Lyons and Gretchen Lyons, real estate as recorded in Pike Coun- ty. NOL A 17 LLC quitclaims to 100 South Locust Street Land Trust, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Daniel D. Turner and Wesena Mae Turner quitclaim to Ira Dennis Morton and John Ira Morton, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Kimberly S. Branam and Michael E. Branam con- vey to Barry W. Parker and Candice D. Parker, real es- tate as recorded in Pike County. Jo Ann Shawhan Family Trust, Shawhan Family Farm LLC and Tommy P. Bennington Trustee convey to Ronald D. Hudson and Kathleen J. Hudson, real es- tate as recorded in Pike County. Debra A. Walters and R. Wayne Walters convey to Neil J. Martin and Michelle D. Martin, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Clinton J. Spaulding and Mary J. Spaulding convey to Craig S. Huddlestun, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Federal National Mortgage Association AK A Fan- nie Mae conveys to Joseph Alexis Rusch, Jr., real es- tate as recorded in Pike County. John Huckelby AK A John L. Huckelby and Sandra Leonard AK A Sandra S. Leonard quitclaim to Bran- don Huckelby, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Donald E. Bolin and Hazel I. Bolin convey to Josh- ua Braunecker and Magan Braunecker, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Ira Dennis Morton, John I. Morton POA and John Ira Morton POA quitclaim to Daniel D. Turner and Wese- na Mae Turner, real estate as recorded in Pike County.