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It is amazing that an experience that is often described so fondly is also characterized by most par- ents as the greatest chal- lenge they have ever faced. A wide set of emotions can be experienced on this journey, particularly dur- ing the pre-teen and teen years. Families are often extremely busy, which can result in many emotional re- actions from parents as well as teens. If we can relate to the de- velopmental challenges our children are experiencing, it may help us to respond in a manner that results in the least resistance and great- est gain. There are many physi- cal, emotional and mental changes teenagers are ex- periencing. Most teens are at the developmental stage of approaching individuali- zation. The beliefs, values, and subsequently the choices of most pre-teens are primari- ly based on what their par- ents have taught and mod- eled. As our children ap- proach the teen years, they begin the process to become their own person with their own set of values and belief systems. During this process, par- ents may interpret the teen's behavior as rebellious and disobedient. Decision-mak- ing skills are the last skills mastered during the devel- opment of the teen brain. As teens seek independ- ence, they often experience conflict between wanting to have a good time and their desire to be taken seriously. Independence for teenag- ers can be translated to find- ing ways to "belong" outside of the family. Research indi- cates that parents have the most influence over their child's decisions. Their peers often take a close sec- ond. Social media creates greater access and a closer bond with peers. Now more than ever, parents should facilitate this independence while maintaining a healthy relationship. Independence and respon- sibility must occur in harmo- ny; otherwise the teen may feel out of control and act ac- cordingly. Parents must al- low consequences and use discipline when necessary to help teenagers make bet- ter decisions. For many parents, this transition can be difficult; allowing your child to fail is tough. The old adage "A mother is only as happy as her saddest child" can ring very true while we allow them to experience the pain that can go along with poor decisions. It may also feel as though you are losing your close re- lationship with your chil- dren as they nurture their friendships more than fa- milial relationships. With work and dedication, most parents find maintaining good communication and providing rules that strike a balance in time spent with friends and family often re- sults in healthy and enjoya- ble relationships. Dinkmeyer and Dink- meyer provide good guide- lines for parents to follow when deciding whether or not to get involved in a prob- lem their teen is experienc- ing. In their book, Parent- ing Teenagers, Systematic Training for Effective Par- enting of Teens, they dis- cuss the importance of de- ciding who actually owns the problem before forcing parental involvement. The following questions are en- couraged to be explored: • Can anyone get hurt? • Are any rights being disrespected? • Is anyone's property threatened? • Is my teen unable to take this responsibility? If any of these questions are answered with a "yes," then both the parent and the teen own the problem. Joined problem solving and parental monitoring should be in place. If each question has a response of "no," the teen would own the problem and be allowed the independ- ence to make a decision regardless of a potential- ly natural consequence oc- curring. Raising a teenager can feel stressful and chaot- ic. It is important to sched- ule time to enjoy each oth- er without conversation over tense subjects. Remem- ber – they will quickly pass through the teen years and potentially raise a teen of their own someday! This column is contribut- ed by Valorie Dassel, LCSW, school social worker for Youth First, Inc., a local nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides 39 Master's level social workers to 57 schools in seven southwest - ern Indiana counties. Over 60,000 youth and families per year are served by Youth First's school social work and afterschool programs that prevent substance abuse, pro- mote healthy behaviors, and maximize student success. CHERRY KISS COOKIES By Monica Sinclair Do you need a last-minute surprise for your Valentine? Why not whip up a delicious dessert? This week's recipe is quick and easy and will delight the love of your life. Give your sweetheart a kiss. Enjoy! INGREDIENTS 1 cup butter, softened 1 cup confectioners' sugar 1/2 teaspoon salt 2 teaspoons maraschi- no cherry juice 1/2 teaspoon almond extract 6 drops red food color- ing, optional 2-1/4 cups all-purpose flour 1/2 cup chopped mara- schino cherries 54 milk chocolate kiss- es, unwrapped DIRECTIONS 1. Preheat oven to 350°. In a large bowl, beat but- ter, confectioners' sugar and salt until blended. Beat in cherry juice, extract and, if desired, food coloring. Gradually beat in flour. Stir in cherries. 2. Shape dough into 1-in. balls. Place 1 in. apart on greased baking sheets. 3. Bake 8 -10 minutes or until bottoms are light brown. Immediately press a chocolate kiss into center of each cookie (cookie will crack around edges). Cool on pans 2 minutes. Remove to wire racks to cool. 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REAL ESTATE TRANSFERS Michael Melvin and Dolly Melvin convey to Rob- bie Davis and Marcia Davis, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Logan R. Medcalf and Tabetha F. Medcalf convey to Joshua L. Anderson, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Recreational Land Holdings, LLC conveys to John Fleener and Jane Ann Fleener, real estate as record- ed in Pike County. Aaron E. Mason and Pike County Auditor convey to Savvy IN, LLC, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Terri L. Waltz and David Waltz convey to Virgil Horn- by and Angela Hornby, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Dennis Hautsch and Dorothy Hautsch convey to Dennis Hautsch and Dorothy Hautsch, real estate as recorded in Pike County. Allen D. Hanselman conveys to Michael A. Hansel- man and Marilyn J. Hanselman, real estate as record- ed in Pike County. Phyllis Nicholson Heuring and Andrew G. Heuring convey to Phyllis Nicholson Heuring and Andrew G. Heuring, real estate as recorded in Pike County. 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