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April 07, 2011

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Diversity Rules by Jim Koury Breach of trust can lead to something positive Trust is a concept discussed quite often. Usu- ally we hear about trust in a negative manner; generally when someone breaks a trust with another person, which can take a very long time to heal. Sometimes it never does. There is always a hesitation to fully trust someone again that did not honor the request to keep something in confidence or when someone you think is an ally turns on you and says or does something to you that just makes you stand back and say, “Wow, I never expected that from them.” It’s painful when trust is broken. While mistrust of someone or something can be taxing on one’s psyche, it also provides the proverbial silver lining in that it motivates a person to seek trust elsewhere or at least keep those who broke the bond of trust at an arm’s length. Trust is something that should be cherished. When found, hang on to it tightly. Everyone needs someone or something they can trust. It can be a reliable constant and comfort in a world of backstabbers and two-faced hypocrisy. In terms of the LGBT community, one of the most serious breaches of trust occurs when Trust can be a reliable constant and comfort in a world of backstabbers and two-faced hypocrisy. someone tells another that they are LGBT and expects that to be held in confidence. It is crushing to discover that the person you confided in shared your secret. When you’re just discov- ering your sexuality and trying to find people that can be trusted, having someone dishonor the request to maintain the confidence can be a devastat- ing blow. It sometimes even causes the person who wants to come out to go further into themselves; back into the security of their dark closet. If you confide in someone about your sexu- ality and the secret is not honored, always remember the “silver lining.” While a breach in trust can be disconcerting, it was meant to happen. It is the universe’s way of getting you to look inside yourself and make decisions that you might not have otherwise made. It is the impetus to move on and become who you were meant to truly be. Jim Koury was born and raised in Oneonta. He is a gay activist, and the city clerk of Oneonta, a position he has held for 18 years. He can be reached at editor@diversityrules- magazine.com. LGBT Events Trash Thursday with Katrina, 9 p.m. Merlin’s, 201 State St., Binghamton. Thurs. 4/7 College Night at Merlin’s, 8 p.m., 201 State St., Binghamton. College ID’s in free before 11 p.m. Fri. 4/8 Fri. to Sun., 4/8-10 Pride and Joy Families 2011 Weekend Confer- ence. LGBTQ families and allies gather at the RIT Inn and Conference Center. For more information, visit www.PrideAndJoyConference. org or call (607) 724-4308. A Songwriter’s Evening: Acoustic and Folk Originals, 7:30 p.m., The Black Box Theater at The Stone Mill, Little Falls. Interfaith discussion and potluck, 6 p.m., 412 Rutger St., Utica. Bring a dish to share and be prepared for some great and sometimes deep discussion on where science, theology, and homosexuality meet. All faiths welcome. Sat. 4/9 Comedy Night featuring Amy Carlson, 8 p.m., The Black Box Theater at The Stone Mill, Little Falls. Sat. 4/16 STAP’s Rock Star Celebrity Bartending Bash, 4 to 7 p.m., Tranquil Bar and Bistro, 36 Pine St., Binghamton. A fundraiser for the Southern Tier AIDS Program. Sun. 4/17 Color Me Streisand, 9 p.m., Twist Ultra Lounge, 252 West Genesee St., Syracuse. A Barbara Streisand tribute show. Fri. 4/22 Interested in writing a guest column for the Diversity Scene? Email editor@otownscene.com 24 O-Town Scene April 7, 2011 Southern Tier AIDS Walk/Run, 11 a.m. to 3 p.m., Recreation Park, Beethoven Street, Bing- hamton. Sat. 4/30 Equality and Justice Day in Albany, meet with legislators in their Albany offices to encour- age their support for all bills promoting LGBT advancements toward equality. Sun. 5/8 the Diversity Scene April 7-13

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