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2 GREATERmilwaukeeJOBS • September 17, 2015 Finance analyst needs to explore why she's crying at the office & A Q A. Addressing underlying dynamics may help you keep your tears in check. For example, when you're crying, what are you feel- ing? Is it sadness? Anger? Frustration? Getting to the root of that will allow you to acquire viewpoints and skills that help you cope more successfully. Let's say that you tend to cry when you're angry - a fairly common reaction.Take a recent occurrence and break it down step by step. Who were you interacting with? What was the topic? Why did you get upset? In particular, think about whether there is a values conflict. If you value fairness and are treated in a way that feels inequitable, that will likely trigger anger. Or if integrity is key and you're asked to do something that violates your ethics, again, anger could result. If you feel powerless on top of it, that could easily lead to tears of rage and frustration. In cases like these, anticipating the challenge is essential so that you can map out the steps you could take to protect your values. Or maybe you're feeling sadness or disap- pointment. If you're in a work environment that doesn't support you or that isn't fulfilling, this could be showing up in your emotional reac- tions. So take a look at your job satisfaction and assess the extent to which your job aligns with your vision for your life and your goals for the future. And then, look at your life as a whole. Is this really about work, or is it an expression of a broader dynamic that needs deeper examina- tion? Having examined the underlying dynamics, it's time to focus on some skills. Breath work is one of the best ways to take control of your body and your emotions. It can be as simple as half a dozen deep, conscious breaths before you go into a meeting.The physical effect of the oxygen in your system will help you maintain your composure. Another tactic is to avoid being blindsided. Anticipate emotional triggers when you can, but decline to engage if someone takes you by surprise. It's perfectly legitimate to say, "I'll get back to you; I need some time to think about that." Then be firm if you get pushback. A sense of general powerlessness can under- mine you, as well. If this is happening, try some visualization work, or even consider working with a coach or therapist to build your inner strength. Finally, if you're just in a bad situation, where the stress, interpersonal dynamics, or corpo- rate culture are just unmanageable for you, learn from your reaction. It's not a sign of weakness to recognize when you're in the wrong place. But it is better to take charge of that and look for other options than to get worn down or burned out. Because in the end, your tears may be some- thing that you can learn to manage and move past, or they may be an indicator of change that needs to occur. Q. I'm a fairly emotional person and need help keeping my feelings under control at work. In particular, I sometimes cry at work, which does not go over well. What can I do? By Liz Reyer Tribune News Service (TNS) "I came into the office this morn- ing at 11 o'clock," said Jayson Nigro, self-described "chief fun officer" at LiftOff Entertainment, a mobile disk jockey service he start- ed in 2010 after graduating from the University of Dayton with a master's degree in business admin- istration. "I'm a pretty outgoing people person, and the idea of working full-time at one job . I don't know if I could ever sit at a 9- to-5 job." Before he went back to graduate school at the University of Dayton, Nigro said he worked in promotions for a couple of years for a national marketing company. "I worked full-time in the corpo- rate world for awhile, but I got tired of traveling," Nigro said. "I was out on the road for 210 days in 2009, so I decided to go back to school to continue my education, get an MBA and start a business. "I had some cash in the bank from my previous job, and I worked a few part-time jobs that allowed me to start LiftOff," he said. "I gave myself two years to succeed. I've been in business five years now, and I can't imagine doing anything else, mostly because I truly love the flex- ibility to run a business and pursue other interests." The desire for a flexible schedule is common denominator among many part-time workers who choose an abbreviated schedule to balance work and family demands, participate in special hobbies or interests or devote time to volunteer activity in the community. AJ Ferguson, who earlier this year took over as director of the econom- ic development nonprofit UpDay- ton, says the money and job securi- ty that might have come with a lucrative corporate gig wouldn't compensate for the freedom he enjoys in his current position. "I don't want to miss a day with the family at the holidays because I used my last vacation day to go camping with friends," Ferguson said. "More money can't buy back missed time with friends and family." Ferguson is young, well-educated and well-groomed for corporate America. But like many of his con- temporaries, he thinks a traditional, full-time office job would not only compromise his work-life satisfac- tion but also limit his productivity. "There are a whole lot of things that are appealing about traditional 9-to-5 jobs like big-company bene- fits, stability, salary levels and more," Ferguson said. "At the end of the day, though, I've opted for what opportunities sound highly creative, highly flexible, highly engaging, highly challenging, highly meaningful and viable finan- cially. So far, traditional 9-to-5 employers have struggled to con- vince me they can offer all that." Ferguson said he works about 30 hours a week fulfilling UpDayton's mission to attract and retain young talent in the local area, but the job also allows him to "play in some other sandboxes," including work- ing part-time as the director of com- munity initiatives for The Collabo- ratory, which offers space and a support system for people to collab- At 4 p.m. on Thursdays, Jodi Lau- rence dashes from her law office to take command of a classroom. For most of the 7.3 million Americans who work a second job, the motiva- tion is simple: extra money in their pocket. But as the school year kicks in, a growing number of profession- als like Laurence juggle side gigs as teachers to gain less obvious rewards. Some people take on the two-job life to get back on a college campus or because they enjoy the work. Others discover multiple advantages in sacrificing their free time to fit teaching into their work/life balance. A side hustle as a teacher actually helps some professionals excel fur- ther at their full-time jobs. Laurence, a veteran health care attorney with her own firm, has begun her first semester teaching health law the University of Miami School of Law. An empty-nester, Laurence thought teaching one night a week would be fun, not expecting the additional payoff she has experienced. "It was something I always wanted to do and I love it," she said. Now, as she prepares weekly lessons, she researches the newest health law cases and prepares to answer stu- dents' questions. "I have to be expert every week on an area within health law to teach it," she said. "It's keep- ing me on my toes and at the top of my game. I am learning as well." Others find that by teaching some- thing they are passionate about, they are happier in all aspects of life. Jorge Rey, director of information security and compliance at account- ing firm Kaufman Rossin, becomes energized when he steps into a class- room. He explained this benefit to Liz Reyer is a credentialed coach with more than 20 years of business experience. Her company, Reyer Coaching & Consulting, offers services for organiza- tions of all sizes. Submit questions or comments about this column at www.deliverchange.com/coachscorner or email her at lizdeliverchange.com. Part time by choice . . . from page 1 Balancing Act Part-time teaching gigs can offer paid, unpaid rewards for full-time professionals By Cindy Krischer Goodman Miami Herald (TNS) A publication of Conley Media Distributed by: Conley Distribution 262-513-2646 ©2004 by Conley Media, LLC Waukesha County Independent and Locally Owned GREATERmilwaukeeJOBS is published weekly by Conley Media – Waukesha County, 801 N. Barstow St., Waukesha, WI 53186. Contents of this publication may not be reproduced in any form without the written consent of the publisher. GREATERmilwaukeeJOBS assumes no liability for any error in copy or content. 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