The O-town Scene

Jim Koury Speak of rights responsibly In light of the Arizona shooting, I felt compelled to write about the importance of giving thanks for our lives and blessing and praising those who come in contact with us instead of tearing them down. It is time that we reflect upon our actions and how they impact those around us. Every action has a consequence. There will always be someone that will take what we say and do to heart. This is why we must make sure that what we are saying and doing is responsible. Many do not take responsibility for their actions and for what they verbally express to others. While we must give thanks for the ability to freely express our beliefs, what is the cost of total freedom to say and do whatever we want? For those visibly working toward full equality for all, there is a responsibil- ity to make sure we do not fall victim to the nastiness that the anti-gay forces utilize to express their view- point. While it may seem attractive to lob the same type of insults and baseless claims that they throw at the LGBTQ community, it does not serve any purpose other than playing the game at their level. We must stand taller and provide rational arguments for why we be- lieve equal rights should be accorded to all people. Responsible arguments always have a better chance of prevailing than irresponsible ones premised on false assumptions and fear. I give thanks everyday for living in the greatest nation in the world. While I believe that our nation has a long way to go in terms of fulfilling its inherent promise of liberty and justice for all, I would not live anywhere else in the world. Each day is a new day that can bring new personal and collective opportunities for advancement. We must continue to exercise our rights as Americans but in a responsible way that does not bring harm to an- LGBTQ Events Thurs. 1/20 Trash Thursday with Katrina, 9 p.m., Merlin’s, 201 State St., Binghamton. Transgender/Cross Dressers Discussion Gatherings, 7 p.m. at 412 Rutgers St., Utica. Call Joan at (315) 337-3659. Fri. 1/21 College Night at Merlin’s, 8 p.m., 201 State St., Bing- hamton, free before 11 p.m. with college ID. College Night at Twist Ultra Lounge, 252 W. Genesee St., Syracuse. Sun. 1/23 Vintage Pride Potluck, 1 p.m., First Presbyterian Church, 362 State St., Albany. Bring a dish to share and enjoy drinks and dessert provided by the Capital District Gay and Lesbian Community Council. A casual social oppor- tunity for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people 55 and older at the For info: (518) 292-8140. Men’s Potluck, 5 p.m., 412 Rutger St, Utica. For info: (315) 734-1653. Wed.-Mon. 1/26-1/31 QFest LGBTQ Film Festival, Proctor’s Theater, Schenectady first annual LGBTQ film festival. For info: www.proctors.org/events/q-fest. Sat. 1/29 The Brentwood Rockers and Penny Jar, 7:30 p.m., Black Box Theater, Little Falls, $12. For info: (315) 823-0208 Fri.-Sun. 2/11-2/13 My Furry Valentine Weekend, 9 p.m., Merlin’s, 201 State St., Binghamton. The Bears of Binghamton hold its Valentine-themed weekend with a meet and greet at Squiggy’s on Friday night. 26 O-Town Scene Jan. 20, 2011 other individual or group. While I vehemently disagree with those who work against equality for all, I bless and praise them for their commitment and willingness to pursue what is in their hearts and remain true to their convictions. However, the difference is that my convictions dictate seeking equality for all while theirs dictates suppression and inequal- ity. Which argument is the responsible one? Equality and justice for all is the responsible argu- ment. To argue otherwise is to concur with baseless and irrational positions that support inequality and suppress the human spirit and one’s individuality. Jim Koury was born and raised in Oneonta. He is a gay activist, and the city clerk of Oneonta, a position he has held for 18 years. He was the editor of Diversity Rules Magazine, which will relaunch in 2011. He can be reached at editor@ diversityrulesmagazine.com. the Diversity Scene Jan. 20-Jan. 27

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