Diversity Rules Magazine

As a Therapist, Educator and Posi ve Living Expert, Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable posi ve at- tude that can actually turn one into an op - mist, literally. Through her three books, "Crea ng Bal- ance & Finding Happi- ness", "Baby Steps: the Path from Motherhood to Career" and " Mind- fully Happy- waking up to life." Diane has been speaking and empow- ering people na on- wide. She is also an Adjunct in Psychology at Montclair State University, where her college work includes mentoring students for per- sonal issue advisement. As an expert in her fields of therapy, Lang has been featured in the Daily Record, Fam- ily Circle, Family Magazine, Working Mother Magazine and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV, Good day CT, Style CT, The Veira Net- work, CBS TV and "Fox & Friends". She has also par cipated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Genera on X- net. Staying in rela onships that are toxic for you keeps you feeling unworthy. How many mes have you stayed in rela onships that didn't fulfill you? How many mes did you se le for a rela onship out of fear? You thought no one else would date you? You wouldn't make new friends? How many mes did you stay in rela onships that had condi ons? They were only there for the good mes? Nowhere to be found when your life got tough How many mes did you stay in rela onships where they didn't support or believe in you? How many mes did you allow people to talk down to you? cri cize? judgmental? Did you think it's normal because that's how you talk to yourself? All of this keeps you feeling unworthy. Your rela on- ships are telling you, you're not good enough, Only for you to ignore the warning signs and stay thinking it's all you deserve or it's be er then nothing but is it really? How do you know someone is toxic? Some mes we can't see the signs that are right in front of us. Denial and numbness have a way of taking over. Let me give you some signs that a rela onship is toxic. Does the person bring out stress, frustra on, anger, hurt, etc. on you physically? If you feel it on your body when you're around this person or even just when they call or text this is a sign. Your body is le ng you know something isn't right. Your body knows even if you're in denial. Trust your mind-body connec on A er spending me with this person do you leave feeling exhausted, drained mentally and physically? feel worse about yourself? Are you always trying to solve their problems, fix life for them, make them happy but they haven't even asked how you are? Are they self absorbed that all conversa ons start and end with them? Are they constantly pu ng you down? Are their words cri cizing? harsh? judgmental? In- stead of loving, empathe c and compassionate. Worthiness - Con't on page 19 Unworthiness By Diane Lang Diversity Rules Magazine| May 2021 | 13

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