Diversity Rules Magazine

3 Diversity Rules Magazine August 2017 I was recently watching a mov- ie called "What's Your Number" on Netflix (by the way an awesome service; and no, I'm not endorsed through them); and the concept of the movie kind of got me thinking about how the sexual numbers game has evolved through the decades; especial- ly now since we live in a society of free choices and open sexual expression. The film was released on September 30, 2011 and features a woman as she looks back at the past twenty men she's had relationships with in her life and wonders if one of them might still be her one true love. Her thinking is root- ed in a conversation she has with a group of friends (while they were drunk… of course) who believe if you sleep with over 21 men that you're doomed to be a single cougar for the rest of your days; never to find a husband. Her resolu- tion is to re-evaluate her past relationships for a match before number 21 comes along and she is doomed to be a spinster for all time. This thought came into my head while watching the mov- ie; how many guys is too many, and how has this num- ber evolved and changed since the decades of wholesome atomic family living to today's more modern alternative families? …but gay men sleep around much more than straight men. That's true, isn't it? Even gay people would admit that, right? It is unequivocal. Or so you might think. In October of 2010, one of the world's largest dating web- sites, OkCupid, collated and published the results of their user "match" questions, which are designed to find out as much as they can about their 4 million members in order to help them find dates. The statistics are startling. There is only a one percentage point difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals in their promiscuity: 98% of gay people have had 20 or fewer sexual partners; 99% of straight people have had the same number. Tellingly, Ok Cupid found that it is just 2% of gay people that are having 23% of the total reported gay sex (whores; LOL). So there we have it, a statistical glimpse into an unreport- ed truth: that your average gay person's sex life is every bit as dreary and unremarkable as a heterosexual's. But that a tiny proportion of them are freakishly promiscuous. Sex, it would seem, is distributed as unevenly as money. Of course, as with all statistics, there are flaws. This sam- ple is largely North Americans who use the internet to find dates. How, therefore, can it be representative of the general population? But are those people – gay or straight – who go online looking for love and sex really going to be less promiscuous than those that don't? I doubt it. Now personally when I read these statistics I was like, "WTF! There is no way that this is true!" And I may be wrong; the report goes so far as to say that gay men and women are way, way, WAY more loose lipped about their sexual adventures then our hetero-counterparts. That means by default, we appear and sound to be much more promiscuous. And here is where these online statistics get even more interesting. Gay people, apparently, don't even want sex with straight people. Just 0.6% of gay men on the site, for example, have ever searched for straight "matches". And Number - Con't on page 19 What's Your Number By Matthew Young, the "Canadian Connection"

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