Diversity Rules Magazine

April 2017

Diversity Rules Magazine - _lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning_

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3 Diversity Rules Magazine April 2017 Matt has been pub- lished professionally since 1996 across Can- ada and some of the United States. Matt believes in transpar- ency and honesty as he would much rather be informed of some- thing and not like it, then have a scathing person sugar-coat something so as not to hurt his feelings. I was recently watching a movie called "What's Your Number" on Netflix (by the way an awesome service; and no, I'm not endorsed through them); and the con- cept of the movie kind of got me thinking about how the sexual numbers game has evolved through the de- cades; especially now since we live in a society of free choices and open sexual expression. e film was released on September 30, 2011 and fea- tures a woman as she looks back at the past twenty men she's had relationships with in her life and won- ders if one of them might still be her one true love. Her thinking is rooted in a conversation she has with a group of friends (while they were drunk… of course) who believe if you sleep with over 21 men that you're doomed to be a single cougar for the rest of your days; never to find a husband. Her resolution is to re-eval- uate her past relationships for a match before number 21 comes along and she is doomed to be a spinster for all time. is thought came into my head while watching the movie; how many guys is too many, and how has this number evolved and changed since the decades of wholesome atomic family living to today's more mod- ern alternative families? …but gay men sleep around much more than straight men. at's true, isn't it? Even gay people would ad- mit that, right? It is unequivocal. Or so you might think. In October of 2010, one of the world's largest dating websites, OkCupid, collated and published the results of their user "match" questions, which are de- signed to find out as much as they can about their 4 million members in order to help them find dates. e statistics are startling. ere is only a one percentage point difference be- tween heterosexuals and homosexuals in their promis- cuity: 98% of gay people have had 20 or fewer sexual partners; 99% of straight people have had the same number. Tellingly, OkCupid found that it is just 2% of gay people that are having 23% of the total reported gay sex (whores; LOL). So there we have it, a statistical glimpse into an un- reported truth: that your average gay person's sex life is every bit as dreary and unremarkable as a hetero- sexual's. But that a tiny proportion of them are freak- ishly promiscuous. Sex, it would seem, is distributed as unevenly as money. Of course, as with all statistics, there are flaws. is sample is largely North Americans who use the inter- net to find dates. How, therefore, can it be representa- tive of the general population? But are those people – gay or straight – who go online looking for love and sex really going to be less promiscuous than those that don't? I doubt it. Now personally when I read these statistics I was like, "WTF! ere is no way that this is true!" And I may be wrong; the report goes so far as to say that gay men and women are way, way, WAY more loose lipped about their sexual adventures then our hetero-coun- terparts. at means by default, we appear and sound to be much more promiscuous. And here is where these online statistics get even more interesting. Gay people, apparently, don't even want sex with straight people. Just 0.6% of gay men on the site, for example, have ever searched for straight "matches". And just 0.1% of lesbians have. e theo- Ramblings - Con't on page 9 Matt's Disjointed Ramblings "What's Your Number?" By Matthew Young

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